第14日挑战
2015.10.27
今晚我是只想安静看书或者做点录音什么的，可是他偏要跟我去买衣服。
已经大半年没有去买衣服了，但是这说明衣橱里的衣服是够穿的。好像过了那个“女人衣橱里的衣服总是少一件”的阶段。
有衣有食，便满足了，物质上的要求真是在退化了。
但先生觉得有些对不起我，最近说了几次要陪我去买衣服，只是他总是匆匆忙忙，我不喜欢。
为了让他完成功课，今天我放弃了我想要的宁静夜晚，去做他认为我会喜欢的事。
买到两件物美价廉的，还不错。
我从伴侣身上发现了什么呢？发现呀，不管他看表不看表，只要他在旁边，我买衣服就是觉得有紧迫感，不如一个人慢慢逛得自在。
我的结论，再也不会要求他陪我逛街啦！除了当作惩罚手段，哈哈。
先生：Kenny，60后，美国人，咨询公司主管
你决定放弃什么？
尽管有一个马上截止日期就要到的项目，但我还是早早下班了。我放弃的就是今晚的睡眠吧。
你们一起做了什么？
我带她去了女装店买新衣服，她总是没空自己去。
她买得很开心，因为我没有总是看手表。
这可是件大事儿。
和很多夫妻一样，太太对于购物的概念让我要疯掉——我和其他很多男人一样，我的购物只是在必需的时候用“打猎模式”去完成：进场，猎杀，走人。
进行得如何？
她买了一些衣服，看上去还挺喜欢的。所以，我猜应该不算失败。
你从伴侣身上发现（或重新发现）了什么？
今天我了解到，她有时候穿我的女儿们要捐掉的T恤衫，不是因为她喜欢那些衣服，而是她更讨厌浪费。
我有一个非常中国的太太。
我想我应该要常常盯着她定期去买一些新衣服，哪怕这意味着我要乘她不注意的时候将她的旧衣服偷出来捐给Goodwill。
What did you decide to give up? I came home early from work despite a nasty deadline; so what I gave up was mostly sleep.
What did you do together? I took her to a ladies’ clothing store at the mall so that she could buy herself some new clothes, which she never gets around to doing on her own; and did so cheerfully and without looking at my watch very often. (This is a big deal because, as is the case with many couples, my wife’s approach to shopping drives me a bit nuts — like most guys, I approach shopping as a necessary evil to be approached with a hunting mindset: get in, make the kill, get out.)
How did it go? Well, she bought some clothes and seems to like them; so it presumably was not a total failure.
What new thing did you learn (or relearn) about your spouse? That she wears the T-shirts my daughters set aside to get rid of notbecauseshe like the shirts, but because she hates waste even more than she hates their old T-shirts. (shakes head) I have a very Chinese wife. I think I need to take more personal responsibility for seeing to it that she gets new clothes on a regular basis even if it means I have to sneak the old ones out to Goodwill in hopes that she won’t notice.
当同你所爱的妻快活度日。（传道书9:9）
有声|我所读过最美的书 有声|亲爱的你总要走在云层之上 有声|一封来自奶奶的感谢信 有声|尊爱每一个不灭的灵魂 有声|亲爱的千万不要怕你不够好
有一种悲哀是你可以给无数人励志，但却再也鼓励不了你自己（女设计师自杀）
