你的婚姻会遇到敌人。它们以不同方式和不同策略发起进攻，但只要你懂得对敌之策，它们就无法破坏你的婚姻。
婚姻中，有些战斗是必不可少的，这些战斗就是包容保护你的伴侣。
先生：Kenny，60后，美国人，咨询公司主管
目前，我想对我最大的挑战就是不让工作占据所有时间。我要确保Helen不要事情排得太满，这非常重要。我很少打高尔夫球的一个原因就是因为我太爱打了，我害怕在高尔夫球场上待的时间超过我陪太太的时间。
以前我也曾经花超多时间在各种政治网站上写评论，在博客上写文章，还有，玩魔兽世界……但是所有这些都很花时间，所以我都特意努力避免去做这些了。
换句话说，今天我就没什么特别要改变的事情了，因为都已经是长期的战斗。非常值得注意的是，刚开始，你总是想着这些嗜好是一个小小的放松而已，但渐渐的，不知不觉的，你陪上的时间就越来越多。
现在，数独（Sudoku，一种数字九宫游戏）是我要拿棍子打倒的……上个星期我又做完一本，现在我故意推迟买下一本的时间，因为它偷走我太多时间。（舒舒注：我是证人，我多次苦口婆心教育他，填那些数字花那么多时间还不如读圣经去，他说是为了让自己犯困好睡觉，这个逻辑是不是很奇怪？做搞脑子的数学游戏会好睡觉？我说你还不如听我唠叨，更催眠啊。他曾经要我把家里到处散落的数独小册子都藏起来让他找不到。）
这本书中教导的很多原则，比如说控制怒气，一时半会儿是难以做到（最起码以我的经验来说），但是假以时日，你好好学习，然后你养成习惯，然后就会越来越容易。可是，控制这些嗜好，对我来说，从来都没有容易过：我摆脱了高尔夫球，接着就在魔兽世界混等级。我脱离魔兽世界，又发现自己可以几个小时陷在数独里面。如果我最后放弃数独（可能是必要的），然后，我也不知道，是不是又会开始集邮或者又是其它什么。哎。
The biggest challenge for me at the moment, I think, is keeping work from taking over. I know making sure Helen doesn’t get crowded out is critically important — one of the reasons I very rarely play golf is that I like it too much and would be afraid that I would wind up spending more time on the golf course than I spend with my wife. And I used to spend quite a bit of time commenting on political websites, and blogging almost as much, and playing World of Warcraft…but all of those things take time, and so I’ve deliberately tried to make sure they don’t take very much.
In other words, I don’t have anything specific to change on Day 23, because this is a battle I’ve been fighting for a long time. It really is remarkable how things start off as just a brief way to relax or take a break and then start slowly and sneakily increasing the time commitment. Currently it’s Sudoku that I’m having to beat down with a stick…I finished off a book last week and have deliberately put off buying another one because it was stealing too much time.
A lot of the other disciplines this book teaches — for example, controlling your temper — are (at least in my experience) hard to do for a while, but eventually you learn them and you form the habits you need to form and it gets easier and easier. This, for me, never gets easier — I beat golf, and find myself leveling up on World of Warcraft. I disconnect from World of Warcraft and find myself playing hours of Sudoku. If I stop playing Sudoku entirely (which I’ll probably have to do) then it’ll be, I don’t know, stamp collecting or something. Sigh.
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有一种悲哀是你可以给无数人励志，但却再也鼓励不了你自己（女设计师自杀）
